What was home like for you? The answer to that question varies from person to person, but what I’m finding out is that not many people my age experienced the same home life I did.
Home has always been a place of safety for me. Home has always been home for me. Looking back over my memories, home was never somewhere I didn’t want to be. Home was always a happy, peaceful place where I knew I was loved, where I knew God came first, and where I knew Mom and Dad would always be on the same team, supporting me, directing me, and loving me.
Today, my parents celebrate their 47th wedding anniversary. In a world where fewer and fewer marriages seem to last, that’s a massive accomplishment. It’s something to be proud of, but more than that, it’s something to be thankful for.
I’m fully aware that many others didn’t (and don’t) have that same assurance. Many families fall apart, although that doesn’t mean God’s done with them. Isn’t God awesome to still be there when everything else collapses around us?
My parents defied the odds. But that’s kind of the hallmark of our family. If someone tells us it can’t be done, we’re usually the first ones in line to prove that it can (we’re not stubborn at all). But something I’ve learned over the years of watching my parents is how important it is to build your family on God’s truth.
A family is built. They don’t just happen. They take work and planning and strategy and organization. And sometimes they even take failure in order to be built again, stronger and better. The Bible says in Psalm 127:1, “Unless the Lord builds a house, the work of the builders is wasted. Unless the Lord protects a city, guarding it with sentries will do no good.”
That means you can work as hard as you can and build the best structure possible, but if God isn’t involved and you don’t use His principles, what you’re building won’t last. It will collapse. Maybe not after the first storm, or the second, or even the third. But eventually a storm will come along that your building can’t survive, and it’ll collapse around your ears.
Unless the Lord builds a house, the work of the builders is wasted. Unless the Lord protects a city, guarding it with sentries will do no good.
And this verse isn’t talking about a house or a wall or a skyscraper. It’s talking about family. God builds families. God tells husbands what’s expected of them. God tells wives what’s expected of them. God tells children what’s expected of them. And if everyone does what God says is right, you’ll end up with a family founded on God’s truth, trusting in God’s promises, and following God’s Word. That’s a family that will last.
But what if you started your family and didn’t use God’s Word? Are you just out of luck? Not at all. God doesn’t just build families. He renovates them too.
It’s never too late to build your family, and it’s never too late to repair your family either. Ask God for help, seek answers from His Word, and you can build a family that will survive the storms of life.
It can be done. It’s not normal. It’s not natural. It’s not even possible in human strength, but Christ followers were never supposed to live on our own strength anyway.