Insecurity is one of the most prevalent issues in our world. Every culture, every business, every family, every person struggles with insecurity. It can come from a myriad of sources, and it’s often the root of the bad or foolish or selfish decisions people make.
Our entire world creates insecurity in every aspect of our lives. For power. For wealth. For status and control. The more insecure you feel, the more money you’ll spend to fix it. The more experts you’ll hire to understand it. The more freedom you’ll give up to change who you are to match someone else’s expectations.
I struggle with insecurity. Deep down inside me there’s a big black spot where I truly believe the horrible lies Satan whispers in my ears. Most of the time I don’t manage my insecurity well. I don’t usually lash out at others, which is good, but instead I ignore it. I deny that I have a problem with it. And while that might be a temporary fix, it’s not a solution, and it causes different issues later down the road.
I’m not sure where my struggle with insecurity came from, but it’s a daily battle to tune out the lies and hear God’s truth about myself instead.
God has a very specific perspective on insecurity and self-worth, and if we really want to adopt a healthy attitude about ourselves, we need to see ourselves and other people the way God does.
In the Old Testament book of 1 Samuel, we get to meet a young man who will eventually become the most famous and beloved king of Israel. But he isn’t king yet in this passage. He isn’t even considered important enough to be called in when the Lord’s prophet comes to visit.
You can find the actual story in 1 Samuel 16:4-13, but it’s pretty long. So let me sum up.
God sent Samuel to find the next king of Israel, and he was supposed to pick from this guy Jesse’s sons. He had eight of them, so there was a good chance one of them would be The One. Samuel showed up, and Jesse trotted out his oldest.
Samuel saw this kid and thought he looked kingly, but God said no. Not him. He looks good, but his heart is wrong.
God said the same thing about all Jesse’s sons who were present. But Jesse hadn’t even called the youngest in from the fields. David was the baby. He was just a teenager too. His family didn’t think he was important.
But God saw David’s heart and told Samuel, “Him. He’s the one. Go get him.”
What I’ve learned about insecurity is that it stems from a heart attitude that believes we can earn God’s love. At least, that’s what I’ve discovered about myself and my own insecurity. I think that I can do more, accomplish more, earn more in any circumstance if I’m worthy of it. If I look right, if I act right, if I think right, if I behave right, God will be pleased with me.
And that’s true to a certain extent. If you live according to God’s Way, you’ll be blessed. That’s a fact. But it doesn’t mean God will love you more or less. And it doesn’t make you less important or more important than someone else.
Insecurity never comes from God.
Insecurity never comes from God. When you feel insecure about yourself, you’re focusing on the things about yourself that don’t matter. You’re looking into a mirror and seeing your imperfections. You’re standing on a scale and watching the numbers climb even though you’ve done everything you can to make them drop. You’re standing in a dressing room trying to get into a pair of jeans that just won’t fit.
And it’s easy to say that those things don’t matter. But when it feels like the truth deep in your heart, it’s difficult to let it go. But you need to. Because insecurity is a lie.
God made you different. He made you with your quirks and eccentricities. He gave you a weird smile and a loud laugh and hair that does bizarre things. And, yes, you should strive to be healthy. You should take care of the body and the life that God gave you, but that means you actually “take care” of it. You don’t starve yourself or mistreat yourself. You don’t hate yourself or regard yourself with loathing because you don’t look a certain way.
Care for your body. Care for your health. But remember that God sees the real you, not the tent you’re living in now.
God sees the real you, not the tent you’re living in now.
God gave the ultimate sacrifice to pay for your soul, so that means you’re worth a lot. Don’t forget that just because you can’t fit into the size of jeans you want or because your cute, skinny friends get all the attention from the boys while you’re left behind in the kitchen helping out because it’s easier to hide in there.
Learn how to see yourself the way God sees you, and not based on how others do. If you have a strong understanding of who you are in Jesus and why you matter to him, it won’t matter what other people do or say to you.